Flights of Fancy, finding perspective…

“I’m not in search of sanctity, sacredness, purity; these things are found after this life, not in this life; but in this life I search to be completely human: to feel, to give, to take, to laugh, to get lost, to be found, to dance, to love and to lust, to be so human.”

“We have to allow ourselves to be loved by the people who really love us, the people who really matter. Too much of the time, we are blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us, people that don’t even matter, while all that time we waste and the people who do love us have to stand on the sidewalk and watch us beg in the streets! It’s time to put an end to this. It’s time for us to let ourselves be loved.”

“You will manage to keep a woman in love with you, only for as long as you can keep her in love with the person she becomes when she is with you.”

“You only need one man to love you. But him to love you free like a wildfire, crazy like the moon, always like tomorrow, sudden like an inhale and overcoming like the tides. Only one man and all of this.”

“I don’t know why people are afraid of lust. Then I can imagine that they are very afraid of me, for I have a great lust for everything. A lust for life, a lust for how the summer-heated street feels beneath my feet, a lust for the touch of another’s skin on my skin…a lust for everything. I even lust after cake. Yes, I am very lusty and very scary.”

“I don’t understand dating.. and the other things that people do.. all I know is that you ought to find the one you recognize. The one who gives you four arms, four legs, four eyes, and has the other half of your heart. There’s only one of those, so what are all the other things for? Like dating?”

“I have learned that you can go anywhere you want to go and do anything you want to do and buy all the things that you want to buy and meet all the people that you want to meet and learn all the things that you desire to learn and if you do all these things but are not madly in love: you have still not begun to live.”

“There is some kind of a sweet innocence in being human- in not having to be just happy or just sad- in the nature of being able to be both broken and whole, at the same time.”

“In this world, it is too common for people to search for someone to lose themselves in. But I am already lost. I will look for someone to find myself in.”

“I can’t decide whether I’m a good girl wrapped up in a bad girl, or if I’m a bad girl wrapped up in a good girl. And that’s how I know I’m a woman!”

“She didn’t belong anywhere and she never really belonged to anyone. And everyone else belonged somewhere and to someone. People thought she was too wonderful. But she only wanted to belong to someone. People always thought she was too wonderful to belong to them or that something too wonderful would hurt too much to lose. And that’s why she liked him– because he just thought she was crazy.”

“Destiny is real. And she’s not mild-mannered. She will come around and hit you in the face and knock you over and before you know what hit you, you’re naked- stripped of everything you thought you knew and everything you thought you didn’t know- and there you are! A bloody nose, bruises all over you, and naked. And it’s the most beautiful thing.”

“We are like stars. Something happens to burst us open; but when we burst open and think we are dying; we’re actually turning into a supernova. And then when we look at ourselves again, we see that we’re suddenly more beautiful than we ever were before!”

“I consider myself a stained-glass window. And this is how I live my life. Closing no doors and covering no windows; I am the multi-colored glass with light filtering through me, in many different shades. Allowing light to shed and fall into many many hues. My job is not to direct anything, but only to filter into many colors. My answer is destiny and my guide is joy. And there you have me.”

“I’m unpredictable, I never know where I’m going until I get there, I’m so random, I’m always growing, learning, changing, I’m never the same person twice. But one thing you can be sure of about me; is I will always do exactly what I want to do.”

“If I am to be fallen into love, I will. And if as a result I will appear to be stupid, disillusioned, and of poor judgment, I will. And I would be damned if I cared what other people think. For I would rather be thought of as all of these things, than not love. If in loving, I become the naked woman on the horse, I will ride that horse with my head held high. This is my spirit. I am unbreakable.”

“Our bodies have five senses: touch, smell, taste, sight, hearing. But not to be overlooked are the senses of our souls: intuition, peace, foresight, trust, empathy. The differences between people lie in their use of these senses; most people don’t know anything about the inner senses while a few people rely on them just as they rely on their physical senses, and in fact probably even more.”

“I have come to accept the feeling of not knowing where I am going. And I have trained myself to love it. Because it is only when we are suspended in mid-air with no landing in sight, that we force our wings to unravel and alas begin our flight. And as we fly, we still may not know where we are going to. But the miracle is in the unfolding of the wings. You may not know where you’re going, but you know that so long as you spread your wings, the winds will carry you.”

“People have to forgive. We don’t have to like them, we don’t have to be friends with them, we don’t have to send them hearts in text messages, but we have to forgive them, to overlook, to forget. Because if we don’t we are tying rocks to our feet, too much for our wings to carry!”

“When I was little and running on the race track at school, I always stopped and waited for all the other kids so we could run together even though I knew (and everybody else knew) that I could run much faster than all of them! I pretended to read slowly so I could “wait” for everyone else who couldn’t read as fast as I could! When my friends were short I pretended that I was short too and if my friend was sad I pretended to be unhappy. I could go on and on about all the ways I have limited myself, my whole life, by “waiting” for people. And the only thing that I’ve ever received in return is people thinking that they are faster than me, people thinking that they can make me feel bad about myself just because I let them and people thinking that I have to do whatever they say I should do. My mother used to teach me “Cinderella is a perfect example to be” but I have learned that Cinderella can go fuck herself, I’m not waiting for anybody, anymore! I’m going to run as fast as I can, fly as high as I can, I am going to soar and if you want you can come with me! But I’m not waiting for you anymore.”

“For everything in this journey of life we are on, there is a right wing and a left wing: for the wing of love there is anger; for the wing of destiny there is fear; for the wing of pain there is healing; for the wing of hurt there is forgiveness; for the wing of pride there is humility; for the wing of giving there is taking; for the wing of tears there is joy; for the wing of rejection there is acceptance; for the wing of judgment there is grace; for the wing of honor there is shame; for the wing of letting go there is the wing of keeping. We can only fly with two wings and two wings can only stay in the air if there is a balance. Two beautiful wings is perfection. There is a generation of people who idealize perfection as the existence of only one of these wings every time. But I see that a bird with one wing is imperfect. An angel with one wing is imperfect. A butterfly with one wing is dead. So this generation of people strive to always cut off the other wing in the hopes of embodying their ideal of perfection, and in doing so, have created a crippled race.”

“There are powers far beyond us, plans far beyond what we could have ever thought of, visions far more vast than what we can ever see on our own with our own eyes, there are horizons long gone beyond our own horizons. This is courage- to throw away what is our own that is limited and to thrust ourselves into the hands of these higher powers- God and Destiny.To do this is to abide in the realm of the eternal, to walk in the path of the everlasting to follow in the footprints of God and demi-gods. The hardest part for man is the letting go. For some reason, he thinks himself big enough to know and to see what’s good for him. But in the letting go…… found freedom. In the letting go…….. is found the flight!”

“God and Destiny are not against us, rather they are for us, they are the ones who never forget the things we have long forgotten, the ones who hear the desires of our heart that our own heads can’t hear, and they are the ones who never forget who we really are, long after our minds have forgotten the images of who we are. We come from God and we belong to Destiny, yet for some reason of ignorance we think that to be the master of our own fates and the captain of our own souls means to write everything down on a paper and plan everything out on a grid! Such great things to be done, and we think they are accomplished by our primitive ways! No. We must only know what we want. And want what we want. And then fly high enough to see all that which we want that we couldn’t yet see.”

“‎They are angry with me, because I know what I am.” Said the little eagle. “How do you know that they are angry with you?” “Because, they despise me for wanting to soar, they only want me to peck at the dirt, looking for ants, with them. But I can’t do that. I don’t have chicken feet, I have eagle wings.” “And what is so wrong with having eagle wings and no chicken feet?” Asked the old owl. “I’m not sure, that’s what I’m trying to find out.” “They hate you because you know that you are an eagle and they want you to think you are a chicken so that you will peck at the ground looking for ants and worms, so that you will never know that you are an eagle and always think yourself a chicken. Let them hate you, they will always be chickens, and you will always be an eagle. You must fly. You must soar.” Said the old owl.”

“I feel that we are often taken out of our comfort zones, pushed and shoved out of our nests, because if not, we would never know what we could do with our wings, we would never see the horizon and the sun setting on it, we would never know that there’s something far better beyond where we are at the moment. It can hurt, but then later you say “thank you.” I have been pushed and shoved and have fallen out and away, so very, very, many, many times! And others around me have not! But then, the others haven’t seen what I have seen or felt what I have felt or been who I have been, they can’t become what I have become. I am me.”

“Some girls need men to take them places. Others just click their heels, spread their own wings, and fly.”

“The day I understood everything, was the day I stopped trying to figure everything out. The day I knew peace was the day I let everything go.”

“Grace is what picks me up and lifts my wings high above and I fly! Grace always conquers! Be graceful in everything; in anger, in sadness, in joy, in kindness, in unkindness, retain grace with you!”

“It is beautiful to discover our wings and learn how to fly; flight is a beautiful process. But then to rest on the wings of God as He flies: this is divine.”

C. Joybell

29 thoughts on “Flights of Fancy, finding perspective…

    • Hi Marga, I glad you liked C. Joybell’s quotes as much as I do. Her penetrating words are uplifting & I’m sure your followers will appreciate the share. Thanks for posting the link to her books, her poetry is intimate and insightful. 😀 Enjoy your week!


  1. ……and so, it follows that, Prince Charming can go fuck himself, too! May, Ken & Barbie follow….Yet, at the very some time, they’ll never have the human experience nor, do they in any way represent the human experience.

    Imagine, a parent setting their child up, at a very young age to be something other than human, representing that parents’ fractured view of perfection. Imposing something the parent is not, and could not become as the obligatory duty of that child to do, for, and in place of the parent.

    Love is very deceitful if, you really haven’t met the right person. In several conversations at work with one woman in particular, I had to ask her, ‘Are you in love or, in love with being in love?’ She has since moved on to another relationship where it seems, she might finally be in love. I think the question, if answered truthfully, is a valid test of your love for someone else.

    Don’t mean to ramble but, this post brought these thoughts to mind.

    Peace & Love to you, Maddy…


    • Hi Dave, thanks for your insights! I agree, idealizations rarely come to pass society perpetuates because kids are raised on dreams. Parents place all their hope and dreams on their kids and these ideals may be unrealistic, or not in alignment with our soul’s development.
      People will grow into their being. The idea of “love” may be deceitful, cause everyone has their own ideas. If one does not understand true love from within, unconditional, compassionate, accepting – then that “right person” will be just another projection of our illusions. There’ll always be a misalignment in relationships because we cannot find in another what we’re not already. That’s why love seem elusive to people, first they have to love themselves.
      A valid “test” for love comes from Jesus Christ: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
      “Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters.”
      “Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for each other, love one another deeply, from the heart.”
      “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.”

      Just know ourselves to be love because we are created from love, so spread the wealth!
      Peace and Love to you as well Dave. ♥


  2. That was absolutely amazing! I thought I was getting to know a little more about you! What a beautiful thought filled peace (pun intended). Thank you for that. I will definitely be back to read that again and again, cause I love where she is coming from. Thank you for this. Much Love, Sandy


  3. I would fain have passed out if you were the one who wrote all these. I would probably go mad from imagining how same hatting Maddy -oops! Maddy hatter -was the source of such words! But then, madness and greatness make love on same bed every night. Aha! That intimate.


    • You are so welcome Marga! I’m glad you connected with the message, it blew me away every time! So how did your improv go last night? I know you had a blast regardless of outcome. The fun of it is just being a part of the process, learning to trust it. To keep challenging ourselves, upping the ante, and be genuinely surprised at what we’re all capable of doing. Life is just awesome that way! ☼
      Best wishes, thanks for sharing your joy with the world.


      • Thanks so much for asking. You are right on. Tis a challenge – room to grow – but enjoying the ride 🙂 I’m going to cut and paste your post so I can refer to the words when away from the waves 🙂 So great to have your shininess back!


  4. Wow, where did you find this, Maddy? This is incredible. “Cinderella can go fuck herself.” Love it. Love all the flying imagery. Let’s spread our wings and show those chickens what is possible (Like Neo at the end of The Matrix). Thank you for sharing, my wise friend. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo


    • Hello KOZO, my beloved and compassionate friend! I just knew your rebellious spirit would relate to that line, as mine does. I literally jumped up and cheered, Damn Straight! We ain’t takin’ this Bullshit any more… fairy tales are for fairies, we’re living large like the gods we are! Let’s help everyone recognize and live their highest potential, with divine love and compassion for all. Hells (Heavens) yeah son! {{{Mucho Hugs}}} my lovely 1 – keep doing u’r superman thang. ♥


  5. My, i loved it! Can’t even express how much, in words.. But until i read it till the end and saw its author’s name, i was sure it’s yours, Maddy! It sounds exactly as if You wrote it, and so much describes our similarities and free spirits – always traveling with the wind, always in search of beauty, light and in love with Everything!! 🙂
    Bow to the author, i will probably reblog this piece as it should be passed on, it’s too hilarious to pass by 🙂
    Love ♥


    • My dearest Sofia, you grace me with your eternal presence. I’m forever grateful for your wisdom and guidance, your TF poem is transcendent, like drinking from the fountain of love everyday! C. Joybell C. must be my twin spirit, her living words are my life, as if she’s recorded my thoughts, feelings, personality, vision, insights, actions, beliefs… everything. I felt like she’s actually writing “our” biography thru parallel lives- awesome huh! I was so ecstatic, just had to collect all “our” related quotes and share them with you. I knew you would connect immediately, since we’re kindred spirits in flight, so I’m glad it tickled your soul to see the similarities. I’ll put together another post soon, more awesome quotes to come from this author with my blessings, haha. ♥♥♥ Sending love your way my beautiful soul sister. ♥♥♥


      • You are absolutely right! 🙂 I actually related to everything written in that post so much that i was sure if i share it on my blog, people will think i actually wrote it about myself! :))
        Following your updates for more awesome reading! Hugs to you ♥


  6. I have nodded and smiled and cried through this post. So much truth. So often, it is difficult to take the pains that life throws at. I have had and experienced my one true love but, unfortunately, that has been lost to death. I now continue with different types of love in my life, for which I am eternally grateful. To be loved is, indeed, the most wonderful thing in this world. I wait to see what the pain will turn me into. I trust that it is something better than I ever imagined. I trust that God has a plan far beyond any of my dreams.


    • Thanks for sharing your connection with these quotes. I can relate very deeply this author myself, she lives fully in the moment without inhibitions. I am sorry for your loss, and clearly all you love for him has been channeled to compassionate caring for all animals. I’m inspired by you & applaud your efforts! God certainly has a plan for all of us, so I’ll just leave you with this quote:
      “Pain is a pesky part of being human, I’ve learned it feels like a stab wound to the heart, something I wish we could all do without, in our lives here. Pain is a sudden hurt that can’t be escaped. But then I have also learned that because of pain, I can feel the beauty, tenderness, and freedom of healing. Pain feels like a fast stab wound to the heart. But then healing feels like the wind against your face when you are spreading your wings and flying through the air! We may not have wings growing out of our backs, but healing is the closest thing that will give us that wind against our faces.”


  7. Two men started a journey,
    one of them reaches the destination finally,
    but now contemplating what he should do,
    celebrate the success of reaching his destination,
    or show tears for losing his friend in the journey.


    • Life is a journey, we each must find our own path, live our own lives… but with empathy and compassion. It is impossible to carry everyone along for the ride, the weight becomes to much. The right action is helping others to help themselves…like the Chinese axiom “Give a man a fish, and you have fed him once. Teach him how to fish and you have fed him for a lifetime.” I’ve learned not to interfere in others journey, it’s may deprive others from necessary experience. Instead of useless tears shed, uplift with motivation, encouragement and joy! Most importantly, share love with all unconditionally- that’s truest love of all. ♥ Thanks for your comment sir.


♥Thanks for sharing♥

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